Does The Big 'O' Really Increase Your Chances Of Conceiving?

a woman dealing with the chances of conceiving

If you’re currently in the process of trying to make a baby and you haven’t seen a positive sign pop up on your pregnancy test yet, try not to let it get to you. Most medical professionals can agree on the fact that if it’s been less than 12 months, your chances of conceiving are still really good. 

But if you're in panic mode already, there are some things you can do to significantly improve your chances of getting pregnant. Aside from having sex (especially when you’re ovulating), it’s important to take prenatal vitamins, reduce your levels of stress, and decrease the your coffee and alcohol intake. You should also consider keeping your exercise routine at bay; amping it up could throw your hormones off, which could affect your ovulation and menstrual cycles.

But that's not all. You could also have more orgasms

No, really. Back in the early 1900s, a theory was invented known as the "upsuck hypothesis." It’s basically the belief that whenever a woman climaxes, her uterine muscles mimic a vacuum in the sense of "sucking up" the sperm traveling through her cervix and uterus. As a result, the sperm has a much better chance of entering into her fallopian tubes so her egg can be fertilized.

It makes perfect sense, but it’s typically considered nothing more than a theory because since the 1900s, medical professionals have not found enough evidence to consider this to be a surefire result.

According to Adeeti Gupta, MD, FACOG, founder of Walk IN GYN Care in Queens, New York, "If the uterus and tubes…and the small little cells in the lining of the cervix and the vagina are working right so as to gently nudge the swimmers up the cervical canal into the uterus and then into the fallopian tube, and the eggs are forming and being released at the right time, then with the alignment of all these perfect conditions, you will get pregnant, no matter [if you have an] orgasm or not."

Which perspective should you believe? Well, when it comes to orgasms increasing your chances of conceiving, here’s another thing to think about. If a woman has an orgasm and a man does not, other than pre-ejaculate, there’s not much sperm to work with. This means that simultaneous orgasms are what would be required to truly make everything—pardon the pun—come together, right?

One thing that all researchers can agree on is orgasms are nice to have and certainly can’t hurt when you’re in the process of trying to get pregnant. In fact, they actually can help to reduce stress; the less cortisol that’s in your system, the easier it is to get pregnant (that is proven).

Moral to the story? Try to not put too much pressure on yourself to have an orgasm or to make a baby. Let everything flow naturally and you just might be surprised by how good the sex is and what pops up on your pregnancy test next month (or the next) if you do.



Just a woman who digs all things relationships. HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS, that is. I've been writing (professionally) for close to 20 years, including having two books published. I'm also a marriage life coach and doula. Sometimes I speak to large audiences or do radio interviews, but usually I'm sitting in my favorite chair, surfin' the 'net and penning stuff that I wish I had read in my early 20s.

Listen, I don't have all the answers, not by a LOOOOONG shot. But whatever I can do to spare folks any heartbreak, bitterness or straight-up drama, I'll devote some keystrokes to doing. 

That's a nutshell. For the most part. Kinda. ;)


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