Doing This One Thing In Bed Will Get You Off EVERY TIME

a woman getting ready to have more orgasms

Orgasms feel good. Can there be a bigger understatement on the planet than that? Probably not. 

Not only are they mad pleasurable, orgasms have loads of health benefits too, like relieving stress and even acting as a remedy for insomnia. The sperm that’s released during an orgasm contains antioxidants that can actually make your immune system stronger and nutrients that can help fight depression. There are even studies that indicate orgasms can boost your immune system and increase longevity. So yes, it’s important that we all do what we can have as many as possible!

If you're looking for away to have more earth-shattering orgasms, cognitive neuroscientist and certified sex therapist, Nan Wise, Ph.D. might just have the answer you’re looking for.

Based on an article featured on Women’s Health, Dr. Wise used fMRI scans during orgasms to see what a person’s brain activity was like as they were climaxing. She discovered that the brain is literally our biggest sex organ. Her findings show that several brain regions play a role in orgasms due to stimulations that happen in virtually every area of our brain.

According to Dr. Wise, "What we saw from my research was, during the course of stimulation, brain activations increase. Specifically, orgasm involves a lot of brain regions that contribute to sensation and reward."

What does this all mean? Basically, if we want to have more and better orgasms, we need to be putting more focus on what we’re thinking about, not just what we’re doing. In other words, our fantasies can play a significant role in the quality of our orgasms —more specifically, our fantasies about having our genitalia stimulated.

How did Dr. Wise and her team figure this out?

In a 2016 study published in Socioaffective Neuroscience and Psychology, Wise and her team found that thinking about genital stimulation alone triggers many areas in the brain — especially those involved with orgasm.

"Imagining dildo stimulation generated extensive brain activation in the genital sensory cortex, secondary somatosensory cortex, hippocampus, amygdala, insula, nucleus accumbens, and medial prefrontal cortex," the authors wrote.

Imaging those areas being touched in a non-sexual way, like at the gynecologist, failed to trigger those areas of the brain.

Hmm. Maybe that’s why masturbation is all the rage, huh? 

Actually, if we think/try hard enough, it’s possible to have orgasms without being touched at all. Anyways, if you’ve been trying to improve — or increase — your orgasms, now you know what to do.

Think harder. Fantasize more. Your brain and body will love you for it!



Just a woman who digs all things relationships. HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS, that is. I've been writing (professionally) for close to 20 years, including having two books published. I'm also a marriage life coach and doula. Sometimes I speak to large audiences or do radio interviews, but usually I'm sitting in my favorite chair, surfin' the 'net and penning stuff that I wish I had read in my early 20s.

Listen, I don't have all the answers, not by a LOOOOONG shot. But whatever I can do to spare folks any heartbreak, bitterness or straight-up drama, I'll devote some keystrokes to doing. 

That's a nutshell. For the most part. Kinda. ;)


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