7 Feminist AF Questions To Ask On Your Next Date

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Dating as a hetero, feminist woman can be all but easy. 

We're aware of how rampant misogyny is, and how toxic masculinity can enforce it, so looking for a partner who respects (all) women, doesn't place gender roles on you, and who doesn't have a lot to unpack when it comes to the way society views women can be tiresome, to say the least.

But for those interested in checking out the dating pool, asking questions can be an easy way to feel someone out, which is sort of the point of first dates anyway. Here's how to ask the real, direct questions in any casual setting, because we can all stand to save time on dating prospects. 

Besides, it's better to find out he's a sexist a**hole now than it is after you've slept with him three times.

How Was Your Last Relationship?
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How Was Your Last Relationship?

If he completely trashes his ex or past partners, it could be a red flag. Sure, we've all had less-than-favorable dating experiences, but "She was such a trifling bitch!" could say more about your date than it does about his ex-lady.

What Do You Look For In Partners?
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What Do You Look For In Partners?

This question will give you a lot of insight on your date's priorities. But be wary of those who only stick to physical traits, as that could be a sign he only objectifies women and doesn't attempt to know them on a deeper level than sexual satisfaction.

Are You A Feminist?
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Are You A Feminist?

The dreaded F-bomb!

A lot of guys don't want to be associated with the word "feminist" due to stereotypes, misconceptions, or even the "femininity" of the word itself. Nonetheless, this question can help you see how your date views feminist ideals and whether equal rights are important to him.

Thoughts On Abortion?
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Thoughts On Abortion?

With so many male politicians seeking to strip women of their rights to their own bodies, questions concerning reproductive rights are crucial. That's not to say one can't be a feminist and not want abortions for themselves. But, here's the thing: women have been getting and will continue getting abortions whether it's a legal practice or not, and seeking control over a woman's right to make that choice for herself is very much unchill.

Thoughts On Sex Work?
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Thoughts On Sex Work?

If he thinks that this type of work is for women who lack self-respect, are desperate, or riddled with daddy issues...RED FLAG!

Thoughts On Race Issues & Police Brutality?
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Thoughts On Race Issues & Police Brutality?

Because what is feminism without intersectionality? Feminism seeks equality for ALL races of women (here's looking at you Susan B. Anthony), so racism is as important an issue as sexism and misogyny for women of color. 

Do You Subscribe To Stereotypical Gender Roles?
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Do You Subscribe To Stereotypical Gender Roles?

It's perfectly fine if his mother elected to stay at home with her children while also maintaining the house and having supper ready by 5 o'clock sharp. It is NOT okay for him to think that it's innate for women to be subservient and docile homemakers. Hard pass.

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JADA OJII

City girl from the South. I'm a writer, foodie, pop culture enthusiast, black culture fanatic, and patriarchy f**ker. You can catch me discussing the latest in news and culture while also giving you the run down of real issues in my community.

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