Having A Great Time In Bed Can Actually Make You Smarter

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The next time your partner rolls over and you’re tempted to say “I’m not feelin’ it,” perhaps this will change your mind! There is a study that revealed that people who engage in great sex (consistently, we might add), are actually smarter than those who don’t.

No, your man didn’t put us up to saying this. There’s real documentation to support the fact that not only does great sex de-stress you while encouraging you to tap into your creative abilities, it can also sharpen your cognitive thinking as well. This is especially the case if you’re a dirty talker because the more you say, the more it refines your verbal fluency (i.e., word-finding skills).

What especially caught our attention is couples who have sex no less than a couple of times a week (a smart move on its own, if you ask us) are also able to remember more, which increases retention as well as productivity, both at home and at work. Plus, as couples strive to improve their sex lives, listening to their partner, being experimental and being vulnerable to trial and error help to boost their brain power too. It's because they're not just "doing it" but thinking about sex and what can be done to turn it into GREAT SEX.

Just what is great sex exactly? Let’s start with the kind where you’re not faking anything just to get it over with. If you need a few tips to get your creative juices flowing so that this won’t be the case, we’ve got a couple of suggestions in mind. Here are 6 things that will get your libido going, ultimately making you much smarter!

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Walk Around Naked

It’s proven that men are visual creatures. A lot of women are too. Sometimes you can get each other in the mood without doing anything other than walking around naked, aka visual stimulation.

Make breakfast in the buff. Watch television in nothing but a thong. Spend an entire Saturday in the nude. 

If you're both naked and try to restrain yourself for as long as possible, that will make giving in even hotter!

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“Talk The Walk”

Don’t underestimate the influence of dirty talk when it comes to having great sex! If you don’t really know how to do it, start by sending your partner some texts about what your favorite memories of sex with them is like. Or, while you’re reading in bed, mention what you really like done to you. 

Dirty talk is a creative way of getting the mind in the mood so that the body is more willing to go wherever your thoughts want to.

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Create Some Sex Cards

On the way home tonight, stop by the store to pick up some blank index cards. Then ask your partner to jot down some of their fantasies. You do the same. 

Break the fantasies up into three piles: ones you want to do, ones that the other partner doesn’t and ones that you’ll save for later. 

From the first pile, commit to doing one of them now (or over the next couple of days). From the third pile, save that for a special occasion (it’ll give you both something really exciting to look forward to!).

It's the game two can play and have a super sexy time doing it!

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Add Some Aphrodisiacs

Boost up your libido a couple of hours before doing the deed by eating some foods that are proven aphrodisiacs. 

Chili peppers stimulate endorphins so that you’ll feel similar to the way you feel when you’re aroused. Bananas contain bromelain that boost testosterone levels and Vitamin B to give you more energy. Honey has boron in it so that you can get more estrogen and testosterone. Watermelon has the reputation for being the “lycopene king” because it boosts circulation and has a Viagra-like effect on the body. Arugula contains minerals and antioxidants that protects your body from free radicals that try to attack your libido. And don’t forget about chocolate. It mimics that feelings of an orgasm. Kinda.

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DIY Lubricant

The wetter the better. That’s what they say. Whether you just want to slip ‘n' slide more than usual or you need a little more help in the lube department, you don’t have to go to your local drugstore. 

Make your own with the help of some Aloe Vera gel, Vitamin E capsules, olive, almond, and coconut oil, distilled water, and maybe just a dab of honey for taste. 

Just don’t forget that if you’re going to use condoms to get the polyurethane or other non-latex kind. Oil doesn’t mesh well with latex ones.

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Ride “The Magic Mountain”

For some, this is an amusement ride. For others? An immediate go-to sex position! Basically, it’s when you and your partner are sitting up, legs intertwined while grinding your pelvis together. 

The more you do it, the greater chance that you not only will have an orgasm, but you’ll be able to experience one…together! 

(Does great sex getting any better than that?!)



Just a woman who digs all things relationships. HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS, that is. I've been writing (professionally) for close to 20 years, including having two books published. I'm also a marriage life coach and doula. Sometimes I speak to large audiences or do radio interviews, but usually I'm sitting in my favorite chair, surfin' the 'net and penning stuff that I wish I had read in my early 20s.

Listen, I don't have all the answers, not by a LOOOOONG shot. But whatever I can do to spare folks any heartbreak, bitterness or straight-up drama, I'll devote some keystrokes to doing. 

That's it...in a nutshell. For the most part. Kinda. ;)


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