Will Smith Says 'Star Wars' Was Better Than Doing The Deed, So Here's How To Change That

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We know, right? That’s a crazy lil' headline right there. And yes, actor Will Smith did say it, although we should probably put his statement into its proper context. For one thing, Will Smith has been a fan of science fiction since he was a child and when he saw the movie Star Wars for the first time, he was 10. The movie “blew him away” and he’s been trying to catch the feelings that it gave him ever since.

Reportedly he said this: “I had sex a few years later,” Smith deadpanned. “It was close, but no Star Wars.”

Ah. OK. We kinda get it. Kinda sorta. We’ve experienced some pretty cool things as children too. Let’s just say that we’re glad to be adults who can take a different sort of thrill ride—one that rivals anything else on the planet: past, present, or future.

If you can’t personally relate, if there’s something you’d rather do than have sex, maybe the following tips will change your mind. Or shoot, at least make you want to do it while your favorite film is on. 

We’ll even settle for that!

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Drink A Lot Water (Ahead Of Time)

If you’re both fans of oral sex but not always happy about how things taste down there, a simple remedy is to drink more water. It flushes out the toxins in the body and that can make fluids a lot more pleasant. So does citrus fruit. So does laying off of caffeine. So does cinnamon (especially if he eats some of it).

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Kiss More

If there are two times when the “love hormone” known as oxytocin shows up and shows out, it’s during an orgasm and during a long, passionate kiss. 

Research reveals that both men and women enjoy sex more when kissing is involved, so make that a huge part of your foreplay—and the main act.

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Use Flavored Lipstick

Guess why lipstick was invented. It was so that men could look at the “top lips” and be reminded of the “bottom ones”. To this day, a man can’t turn down a pair of soft, bright red lips. 

Take things up a notch by putting a coat of flavored lip gloss on them. You can even make some of your own.

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Learn Each Other’s Erogenous Zones

It’s easier to get turned on when you know where to go. For women, the biggest erogenous zones include the ears, neck, breasts, mouth, and (duh) the clitoris. For men, it’s their neck, nipples, scrotum, mouth, and right above his pubic hairline.

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Breathe Deeply

You might’ve heard someone talk about how mind-blowing tantric sex is. One of the reasons why is because it teaches couples to breathe in a way that intensifies their orgasms. 

When things are getting hot ‘n' heavy, our natural inclination is usually to hold our breath. The problem with that is it can prevent new oxygen from flowing into the body and increasing blood circulation. Instead, focus on breathing deeply, especially at the peak of climaxing. 

It can make your orgasms much stronger. His too.

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Recite The Alphabet

Does your man say that you don’t spend enough time in the oral sex department (giving it, that is)? Try reciting the Alphabet slowly in your head. Better yet, try spelling each letter on his privates. We bet you won’t hear another complaint outta him!

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Bring In The Fruit

The movie Girls Trip brought something to the forefront that some of the pros have been knowing about for a few years now: grapefruiting. Other fruits that you can, and should, bring into the bedroom include cherries, strawberries, and even frozen bananas (for you). 

Fruits are very erotic and these in particular are sweet and good for both libidos.

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Smell Some Fruit Too

One of the best things about sex is that it’s an act for all of your senses to get in on. The sense of small included. 

Two fruits that really drive men wild are pumpkin and orange. Pumpkin (especially when combined with lavender) has the reputation of increasing male arousal by as much as 40-percent. Orange brings in a positivity that puts men in a good mood and increases their arousal by as much as 20-percent. 

(Women tend to like the smell of those plus vanilla and cinnamon, by the way.)

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Put A Pillow Underneath You

“Hitting bottom.” You may have heard that phrase tossed around before. Basically it’s when your partner is hitting just the right spot.

Something that is much easier for him to do if you position a pillow underneath your lower back. It will offer you more support and prevent him from having to strain as much while he, as Ice Cube once put it, “puts his back into it.”

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Emotionally Connect

Great sex involves more than just your body parts. Your heart and mind need to be in it too. Ask pretty much any girl (or guy) when sex has been the best for them and they’re probably going to say when there was an emotional connection. 

Communicating effectively, supporting one another and spending real quality time are mental forms of foreplay that can be just what the two of you need to have the kind of sex that rivals Star Wars—or even your last romp. Have fun!



Just a woman who digs all things relationships. HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS, that is. I've been writing (professionally) for close to 20 years, including having two books published. I'm also a marriage life coach and doula. Sometimes I speak to large audiences or do radio interviews, but usually I'm sitting in my favorite chair, surfin' the 'net and penning stuff that I wish I had read in my early 20s.

Listen, I don't have all the answers, not by a LOOOOONG shot. But whatever I can do to spare folks any heartbreak, bitterness or straight-up drama, I'll devote some keystrokes to doing. 

That's it...in a nutshell. For the most part. Kinda. ;)


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